SARAH SPEAKS: THE RULES OF SOCIETY
I once had a side cut, have I told you guys about that before? Well it was during my experimental phase where I tried new things. Thankfully I didn’t go too far and came back to my sense quickly. So I shaved a side of my hair and even went as far as carving two lines in my shaved half. At some point I also had a noise piercing, though I'm not quite sure if was before or after that side cut.
For some reason people are always so shocked when I tell them this, as according to them it doesn’t sound like me or suit my character.
My thinking then was, its just hair! But unfortunately we live in a society that judges a book by its cover, always. A society that does not take time to look beyond the surface but makes decisions based on what they see immediately. To me and some of my friends, that haircut and piercing was cool and edgy but to others it was a sign of irresponsibility.
A friend of mine once told me, before I got to know you I actually thought you were a wild child based on that haircut. At another point I met one of my Nigerian friends’ parents and the look and expressions they gave me was just sad and so judgemental.
I've always said we can’t please everyone hence it’s important to do what makes us happy. But then when it comes to modes of dressing, habits and behaviours that are not aligned with our personality then what?
A toned down version of my then side cut
So am I saying we should always listen to what people say? No, but our outer behaviours should reflect who we are as individuals. First impressions are all we have, after all and once lost, cannot be fixed. Of course people will always judge but I believe we should present ourselves properly to avoid negative perceptions about who we are. I mean how would you perceive your banker or president if they showed up to an official meeting dressed in jeans and a T-shirt.
The quote "dress the way you want to be addressed says it all". In the same vein, I think we should live in a manner that speaks well of who we are.
What are your thoughts on this? Should we conform to the rules of society to save our reputation and image? Is it important to sometimes listen to the feedback of others?
See ya next time! I appreciate you guys for reading always as this segment takes a lot of thought. And thank you guys for the awesome feedback in my last Sarah Speaks on the point of life.
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